Starting together is one of the best ways to lose weight. But soon a situation shows up: one of you loses weight faster. Then come frustration, comparison and sometimes the urge to quit.
Why the pace is different
- Different bodies burn differently. Whoever weighs more, is taller or has more muscle burns more energy and usually loses faster at first.
- Men and women fluctuate differently. The menstrual cycle changes fluid retention throughout the month.
- Different budgets. Each person has their own deficit. Eating the same amount doesn't mean being on the same plan.
How to make it work
- Compare habits, not numbers. "We both completed the day today" is the win you can share.
- Each on their own budget. Same food, different portions. One plate doesn't have to match the other.
- Agree on how to support each other. Ask: "what helps you when a craving hits?". For some it's a word, for others it's being left alone.
- Weight is personal. Nobody has to show their number if they don't want to.
In BoraYour group sees who completed the day and what's left, not how much anyone weighs. Weight only shows if the person chooses to share it.
Sources
- Wing RR, Jeffery RW. Benefits of recruiting participants with friends and increasing social support for weight loss and maintenance. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology. 1999;67(1):132-138.
This content is for information only and doesn't replace advice from a doctor or dietitian.
